I've heard someone say recently that self love is not the best term for many of us. Self acceptance, or self appreciation is easier. How do you feel when you try to love yourself?
Binky! I've missed you! Sorry you're having a downer day. I hope things pick up...maybe that endorphin rush from pilates will make you feel better!
When people work, they can make mistakes. When you do nothing, you can be sure no mistakes are being made. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Sport is a great way to get into a better mood. Hope you enjoyed it!
Good morning! :)
Past is past! F- it indeed! Hope you have a better day, Binkybear!
of a sub-per relationship, one that doesn't meet my expectations, or meet my needs, will be realised. I think that is my worst fear, that my fears are true. But in withdrawing from a situation out of fear, I may protect myself from having it proved
right, but I also prevent myself from ever being proved wrong :(
I.e through refusing to show my vulnerability i deny my friends the chance of comforting me
My friend denied me something just now, and made me feel a bit bad for even asking. It wasn't what she said but the way she said it, I'm sensitive, I know, but to me it came across as a bit cold and a tad haughty. I left it at that, now I've been
Thank you Raf
Thanks Sean and Des
I know exactly how you must have felt, Binky. I'm also far too sensitive and it's causing a lot of problems.
i had replied to this, but it didnt post. ugh. anyway, youve stumbled upon an important truth: that we create our experience w/thought & unravelled its workings w/in context of this incident.
Perseverate over what we dont want and we attract it. We can apply this principle and redirect our minds to what we do want, infusing these images w/ passion, enthusiasm, hope, and other strong emotions.
Im doing so, we attract that. Im experimenting w/this. A home by a river that empties out to the sea has been on my vision board for years. Guess who put a bid on a riverfront home yesterday?
i wonder if misapplication of this principle contributed to my divorce. Hmm.
When I empower thought w/the intensity of emotion- be it love or fear- i attract, manifest, or create what it is im dwelling on. ive got to be more careful and deliberate.
I don't really like partying anymore. Drugs are bad for me, even if it is only a few times a year, it's too much, I want to quit completely.
Happy belated birthday, Binky! :) Even though you're awfully tired and realised you don't like partying the way you did anymore I hope you still had a great time. And the next time you can change your style of partying. Hope you can relax today.
Happy birthday, Scorpion B.
Happy birthday, Binky! Hope you're feeling better and all recovered!
Belated happy birthday Binky!
not just for Christmas! It may be raining but my soul is being nourished.
Im hearing optimism, confidence, hope. Thats a good vibration to be tuned into. When our vibrational countenance is positive, feels like we can weather any storm, transcend any difficulty.
Good for you for asking! That's awesome! I often feel adrift, like I need something new to get excited about, too...Usually I am too lazy and self-destructive to do that though...
And what was his answer? I have these feelings sometimes too.. then I just go to a random cafe and drink coffee and trying to meet new ppl
Thanks Jeff and Esther. I don't think I've ever asked anyone out before. He said 'yes'! We're going for a drink next week.
Also before i was so worried about my job, but not long after I posted my previous status the boss and my manager reiterated that i am doing well and that they want me to work there.
It goes to show that my fears don't reflect reality... Also I wonder why I haven't been on here, perhaps I was feeling a bit 'exposed' after connecting with other pandas outside of the anonymous panda zoo? In addition to being focused elsewhere.
Missed you, Binky! Glad you're doing so well with your self-realization progress!
Binky!!! So good to see you! Welcome back & I hope you'll stay. As usual, you are great at self reflection. Haven't read your previous post yet but glad you're feeling better! 💖
Hi Binky, glad to see you back x
I missed you, too. Glad youre doing well.
Sounds like you're in a good place at the moment. Hope it lasts. big hugs
Thank you, dearest pandas! Your unconditionally loving natures humble me. I feel reassured, and happy to be missed. I also feel guilty for my absence. Most of all it's good to see you're still here :0)
I'll be uncovered as a useless piece of s***, no good... I don't want to go the same way the guy before me did, I know people here liked him but thought be was too slow and so he's kinda been ousted (gently), he is back at college.
Maybe if I can change my lifestyle, like start eating better and exercise more (I know, same s*** different day, same dreams different day... ) it will help my mental fog. Also I have decided to revise my job for 30 mins each day.
Also to quit caffeine, not sure in there yet though, unless i switch to decaf? Finally, I am thinking of looking into getting different therapy, this time CBT, it might help me with these negative self beliefs and self-sabotaging ways of thinking.
Also my friend sewed some doubts in my mind about the estate agency job, not in a nasty way, shes just looking out for me, but still it's not nice for me to deal with.
im hearing frustration with the inner critic who seems to be trying to manage through fear. If you dont do x, terrible y is sure to follow. Im just guessing here. Sounds like critic is wanting to protect you, to prod you to another level...
but the criticism is generating anxiety.
I borrow a lot from cbt. if my reply resonates with you, that was Internal Family Systems, another therapeutic approach you might consider.
I get that brain fog a lot...it can be helpful to remind yourself that you got the job because you're very capable and smart enough/talented enough to do a good job. Also, quitting caffeine sounds horrible to me! I LOVE my coffee!
Take deep breaths, Binky. They really help. You just need to calm down so you can think straight. Everything will work it's way it. Right now: deep breaths! 💖
Oh no, dear Binky. I'm so sorry about your loss. I hadn't seen any updates from you lately and thought something to do with your mum might be the case. I can't imagine how you must feel like, but I'm sending you strength to get through today.
my mom passed on when i was younger and now that i'm older it just starts to hit me. i'm not sure what to say because i feel like i'm still struggling with how i feel about it and maybe always will, but please know that u're never alone and that
you'll be okay
I hope it goes/went well, Binky. Just remember that this is for you (and her family/friends), not for her. Celebrate her however feels right for you. You are so super incredibly strong, I know you'll get through this!
Hope you made it though ok, Binky. Just remember how thankful you can be for all the time spent together through her illness. *big hugs*
youre in my thoughts
love and hugs x
My deepest condolences Dear Binky.
Thank you H F x
Love and Hugs
Stay strong! (:
I am glad to hear from you again dear Binky. Glad to see green. Sending strength and big warm hugs for tomorrow ❤️
Big hug x
Happy to hear you are well. Wishing you peace & strength tomorrow
Happy your job is going well and you're doing ok, Binky!
Glad to hear from you, Binky. Sending strength & support for tomorrow! 💖
Thank you :)
Happy to read you're doing well at your job. Thinking of you today 😘
5.5. will update about previous days later.
I'm so happy yo know you are doing okayish. Wishing you a pleasurable escape into the world of literature ;à
Thank you so much Alicia :) I never did get back to reading my book! Thanks all for hugs :)
Good you got the rest. Helps us maintain our balance, restores our mood, contributes to resilience.
I hope everything is ok Binky
Oh, sweet Binky. I am so sorry to hear of this. At least you went into it somewhat prepared & it wasn't out of no where. I'm sure the pain isn't any less though. Wish I could say something to make it better. Thinking of you loads with lots & lots...
...of love. You'll get through this as strong as ever. I 💖 you! xx
I'm so sorry.. prayers to you and your family *big hugs*
I sorry Binky. ❤️
Oh Binky - I'm so sorry. Glad you have been able to spend time with her - for me, that helped when my parents died. Being an orphan at any age is a big adjustment. Thinking of you xx
Oh binky I'm really really sorry :( totally understand the 'not sunk in' feeling!! Lots lots lots of love ❤️ xx
Sending you love and wishing you peace during this very unsettling and challenging time.
So sorry beautiful binky xxx You're so amazingly strong, sending all of my love.
So sorry for your loss, dear Binky. You were so good to your mom, she was lucky to have you take care of her like that. Sending you strength and big hugs. Love you!
Really sorry for your loss. Big hugs and sending you strength and love 💕
Thanks everyone for your kind support. *Hugs*
I'm sorry I missed this, Binky...I didn't see your mother had passed. I'm so sorry...I know you being there with her these last few months must have been so comforting for you both.
I also completely missed this update and I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. Big hugs and love!
Double yuck about your uncle. Hope your mum is better soon Binky
I know how embarrassing is that.And I wish u good lucky Binky for ur mom
Whoa, that's weird and icky. But kinda funny...
I hope your mom is ok, Binky! *Big hugs*
Thanks Noel, Yondie, Jeff & Claire. It's not the first time he's done this, I usually ignore it but this time I sent a message asking him to be careful to check the recipient before sending the message! It was also kind of funny, I must admit.
The doc thinks her cancer has spread, I might cancel work tomorrow. Was only going in for a couple of hours anyway, plus it's unpaid at the moment. Xx
Good idea Binky
Yes, exercise will help or yoga could help too
Go you! Well done binky!
There must be a very big time change from where you are and from where I am because your going to bed and I am about to get kids from school! Sleep well.
I'm in England Michelle, where in the world are you?
You're amazing, Binky. 💖
Thanks Katie Rose and Manda! Xx
The power of positive thinking goes a long way!
Very true, Michelle. Thanks all for hugs
Thanks Kevin and Des
Binky, I hope you can find the strength to tell your coworker that the remarks are inappropriate and you would prefer to be called by your name. Good luck! Let me know how that turns out would you?
Thank you Michelle. I will update on here when I speak to him. He only works 2 days a week and eventually I won't see him anymore