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I'm really glad you post here. Your perspective is always encouraging. Makes me try to see the positive side of things when I'm all cranky and stressed in the morning.
'Defrag the past' - nice!
Thanks, Jeff! I appreciate that. Needed it. Thank you for sharing your kind words with others as well. Your compassion shines through. Thanks everyone! We need each other to lean on sometimes.
Good luck! You can do this...
Starts off with attorneys discussing terms. After about 3m, I say, 'How about we begin with a little civility and common courtesy. I feel like a piece of furniture. I have a need for respect that isn't being met.' LOL!
Her attorney was offended and he stepped out of room with her. 'I express my needs and you take offense?' I say as they exit. I work with kindergarteners who resolve conflicts better than that.
I have no respect for my wife's decision, the divorce process, or a culture than encourages the selfish pursuit of ones happiness over commitment to marriage and family.
That said, I enjoyed sparring with them. It was kind of like boxing, but with words. In retrospect, tho, I only watered conflict... & still didnt get needs met. Not wise. Oh well.
Divorce attorneys profit off conflict. Oops. That was dumb.
Sounds like a complicated situation. Wish I knew more about the process, in order to give advice, but it seems you are learning fast as you go.
it's an education. Tuition is $300 per hour. My wife chooses this over mediation.
Wow. Well, good for you for pointing out the ridiculousness of the situation. I suppose that's far better perspective than bemoaning the state of affairs. Granted, the lawyer won't care, but perhaps your wife will think about it.
Sorry you have to go through this!
That's great! keep it up man!
Causes: lack of sleep; mild illness; moderate, but temporary, stress; coffee (provokes anxiety); fasting; lack of exercise due to fast; glass of wine yesterday (depressant); not enough time or solitude to quiet mind.
To intensify would be to think: what's wrong with me? why am i feeling this way? I just want to be happy! Not this again. I want this to go away... ad nauseum. better to just go to bed early, meditate, chill.
'Just be with the funk' - I love that. Very George Clinton x
Cindy, our moods do have a musical quality come to think of it-sometimes minor chord stuff, sometimes cacophony, sometimes melodic, funky or bluesy. each breath is a note.