Focus on the things you're lucky to have in your life. They don't need to be big. Just to warm your heart up
You don't always have to look at the positive, though that sometimes helps. Think: what about mommy attitude/ lifestyle needs to change to make me happy again?
Thinking of you, Jeff. xx
It's never too late to change whatever you want to change :) I believe you can do it!
ah Jeff I know that feeling. What to change and where to start? I think you're doing a good job when it comes to exercising. You have a pet you take care of. You join a running club isn't it? I think you're doing a good job already.
Maybe try to do something new? I sometimes just go to the cinema or try new music. At work they organise some activities as well..
I wish I had some good advise when it comes to ppl to talk to. I just exchanged numbers with some of the pandas around to talk to.
Awe I'm sorry. That is me like almost everyday. 😂 Best of wishes for you!
Thank you! I felt a lot better after I ran...
Glad you felt better after your run. Hope you have a good night, Jeff. 😊
You need someone to talk to maybe!
I can understand that. makes it more difficult to learn that. way to go on your marathon though
Amazing how managers forget that. A 'good job' now and then goes a really long way.
That's great, Jeff! You work so hard & were finally acknowledged. About damn time!
Thats uplifting. Nice to be acknowledged.
Like someone once said: enjoy the little things in life, because one day you will look back and realize they were the big things.
Sounds lovely x
Sounds perfect! Glad you were able to enjoy a moment like that. You definitely deserve it!
Good luck! Maybe sleeping better would help, if you could make that work?
Hope you feel better soon Jeff
Did your team win? 😊
Sounds nice Jeff. Party sounds like fun, and good stress practice perhaps?
Instead of saying I'm weak for not running last night in bad weather and drinking/eating instead, I should acknowledge I needed another rest day and enjoyed my evening, which is also a positive.
Instead of bemoaning my leg pain that makes it harder to run, I should be happy I can still run and thankful I haven't had more serious or long-lasting injuries.
Instead of stressing over all the meetings I have today and tomorrow at work, i should be thankful the days will go by quicker. Lately, work has been a bit of a slog, hard to get motivated to work.
Instead of feeling lonely, as I always do, I should be thankful I have opportunities to do social things with people, even if they're not my good friends. It's important to be around people and be social.
I've got more of these...I know this is positive, to change perspective. But it's so hard. I'm not seeing the silver lining right now, just the clouds (and relentless rain and cold, damp weather, which always brings me down)...
I have the same problem. Do you also easy se dangers and threatful situations? Do you easy spot errors and flaws. Cause I have a theory in that case.
I spot my own errors and flaws and focus on those more than successes. I don't know about danger and threats...
Ok, I meant more in your surroundings?
Sounds like you're due some self-compassion, too xx
Maybe my theory does not apply for you. But I think evolution has a purpose with us, and that we are not that missfits as we believe.
I've never been good at forgiving or loving myself. It's been taught/trained out of me at an early age from overly religious guilt-trip mother (the former) and schoolmates/bullies (the latter). Work in progress, I guess...
big step ahead my man! good work :)
You can practice this by writing down three good things every day, train your mind to change perspective. But I have a feeling that this mindset is something we were born with, and not easily change.
I am sorry to hear you had a tough childhood.
Thanks for sharing, Jeff!! I can relate to your thoughts and I agree with lily, it's possible to change the mind, I'm working for years on it, my mum helped me with it since she had a burnout when I was 14 and I was repeating her 'mistakes' in
A much younger age. There's loads of good literature out there that helps and I hope you'll find something that works for you! X
Sounds familiar Jeff... I was also guilt tripped by mum and other family members, and bullied at school. Glad you found some great literature Kaya. I'm just embarking on a self-help journey too xx
❤️❤️ I understand, my friend. My therapist used to say I need to stop 'should-ing' myself and accept myself for who I am.
Perhaps just the after effects. Take time to heal mind from the stress. Be kind to yourself. Hope you feel better soon Jeff.
Yes maybe it's just from the stress. It's ok to feel a bit low, let it be for a bit. And you'll be better soon! Take Care!
Thanks, pandas. Could be that. Could be the weather and such... Ah well, I should be used to it.