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Boiler guy coming today with the part so unexpected working from home day. Feeling a bit down about everything, but sitting in sun, waiting to eat my porridge, so - 5.
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9.30 - first meeting of the day and it was quite horrid. Cried in the toilets. Great - only day 2 back from leave...If people don't have confidence in my work and judgement, wonder why I'm here.
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Big hugs x sorry to hear your having a hard time with work too! I hope things improve they should see they are lucky to have you! 😔

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Felt like a very long first day back at work, even tho I stuck to 9 - 5. Two of my closest pals at work are signed off work for next 2 weeks; texted both, think they both feel pretty down. Meh.
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Back to work tomorrow after two weeks' leave -.anxious. Still have stuff to move into the flat, boiler part hasn't come yet so that still has to be sorted. Talking to a couple of other guys on the
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website - gotta get back on that horse :)

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So - had a nice lunch with the OG but nothing there - won't be meeting up again. That's fine but undoubtedly feeling a bit down, 0 for 2....Just keep on going...
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Ah damn. Hopefully the next one will be more of a match!

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If it's not there then it can't be forced. The right one will come along and you will know it. Still keep the faith and never give up. If I've learnt anything in life then it's that dreams can come true if you keep the faith.

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Well, it's certainly snowing!! But buses still running and forecast is for snow to stop mid morning, so just got to see what happens...
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have fun!

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Just enjoy it. Your OG doesn't have to become 'my G' after one meeting.

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Still snow forecast for tomorrow, but hopeful it won't affect the OG's journey up here too much. Looking forward to meeting him. Found my Neil Young CDs after thinking might have lost them in move!
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Hope you have a good visit and have a connection!

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The OG* and I have all our plans in place for meeting up in Edinburgh on Saturday. Hope weather won't be a problem - snow is possible! However, he's a proper Cumbrian outdoor guy and I grew up
Albertine M
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in upstate New York, so we should be okay. :) At this point I think we both just want to have a nice meal and wine, and hopefully enjoy spending some time together. Both trying not to look too far ahead

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*Thanks John T and Manda, this is his new official nickname :)

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Sounds like good plans. Hope it goes well! Where in NY did you grow up? I don't think I knew that about you...

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Thanks for the hugs, Panda pals xx

Albertine M
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Jeff - I grew up in a little place between Albany and Utica, in the Mohawk Valley. Dairy farms and apple orchards, in my day...I think you live much further west, toward Buffalo? The Bills are my team :)

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Was Super Intendant Chalmers from there? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4lnZr022M8

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😂 Albertine, I love it! If only he knew! 😂

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5 Albertine M
13 Mar 2019 ·
Nice day, been getting some stuff done in the flat tho still way behind. Somehow can't shift meh feeling. 5 but flat
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5 Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·
Funny kind of day so 5. Brutal half hour at dentist (prep work for new crown/temporary fix for chipped crown/scaling...!) and then to GP for 3 monthly injection. Had email from The Guy in response to
Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·

my request for clarification - said he's found out he's likely to be going on a long term (2 - 3 year) posting abroad shortlist so no longer considering LTR but would still like me to visit before he goes. Disappointed but given some of the stuff we

Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·

talked about I think it's probably right move for him. Seeing The Other Guy (who will now need a different name :) ) on Saturday, he's coming up to Edinburgh, awfully nice of him to do the lion's share of the travel

Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·

Not 'shortlist' - shortly!! Damn predictive text!

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11 Mar 2019 ·

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Penelope P
11 Mar 2019 ·

You seem to be very pragmatic about all this, I wish I had half of your level headedness!

Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·

Pen, I probably sound more so than I am! But of course so little had really happened with The Guy, and there was no guarantee anything would have, just my little daydreams. And of course I have yet to meet The Other Guy, which could be awful. It's ea

Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·

to be level headed when it's still new and you have options. But I started this whole thing partly to clear my mind of a guy that I kept going back to/thinking about, and that does seem to be working. And from that debacle, and my LTR that I broke

Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·

off at Christmas, I think I'm a lot clearer now what type of person and relationship I want. Whether I get it is another matter! But the last few years have been rough, and I'll be 52 this year - bit of a slow learner, to say the least!

Penelope P
11 Mar 2019 ·

Oh I hear you. I'm 49 and finally “got” the man I've liked for almost 20 years with three failed relationships in the meantime. It's still far from straightforward but he's worth the hard work. I wish you the best xx

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12 Mar 2019 ·

I always felt like The Other Guy was better for you than The Guy. He just seemed to get you! :)

Albertine M
12 Mar 2019 ·

Thank you for the hugs, dear Panda pals:)

Albertine M
12 Mar 2019 ·

Pen - whenever I read your posts I know we've been through a lot of the same things. I'm so hoping everything works out for you!

Albertine M
12 Mar 2019 ·

Jeff - I do think you're right. Not to say that means everything will work out, but - for now - we do seem to get each other. :)

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Call him the OG... 😁 (That's young people's talk - I'm not exactly sure what it means)

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😂😂😂 John- it's 'original gangster' I had to ask too. Happy you have this other guy, Cindy. I'll be rooting for ya!

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6 Albertine M
10 Mar 2019 ·
6 because it's snowing :)
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10 Mar 2019 ·

Ah, spring! We've probably got more snow in the forecast & definitely still low temps. I can't wait for spring!

Albertine M
11 Mar 2019 ·

Alicia, I live in Scotland, near Edinburgh. We'd already had some springlike weather, and crocuses out etc and today we seem to be back to spring!

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10 Mar 2019 ·

Where do you live? If you don't mind sharing that. I'm in the south of Germany, it's already spring here.

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10 Mar 2019 ·

There was around 4 cm first thing but it's melted here now.

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6 Albertine M
09 Mar 2019 ·
Had email earlier from The Other Guy asking if we should speak on the phone. So - agreed to speak at 4.30 and spent a lovely hour and a half chatting. Not something I normally do with people! At end
Albertine M
09 Mar 2019 ·

he asked did I want to take things further - ie meet up in Edinburgh. So we've agreed we will, either next Saturday or the following. I did tell him that I've been talking to The Guy and met him this week but not sure about status of that.

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09 Mar 2019 ·

So we'll see....

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10 Mar 2019 ·

Woo-wee! You are one popular lady! Looking forward to seeing how this plays out. I'm cheering for ya! xx

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5 Albertine M
09 Mar 2019 ·
Up early (for a Saturday) to get a delivery - nothing exciting, a set of steps, but will allow me to get further with cleaning and organising kitchen. Going back and forth about what The Guy may be
Albertine M
09 Mar 2019 ·

thinking - even as I acknowledge to myself that this is a very stupid thing to spend my brain power on as I can't know! Stupid brain, stupid heart...

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09 Mar 2019 ·

I know what you mean. Today I'm going to try and switch off from it. But he's already texted this morning. It's a tough one. Try to keep occupied with other interests, that's my plan today. Good luck x

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Thanks for the hugs, Panda pals - means a lot

Albertine M
09 Mar 2019 ·

Pen - thanks for your wise words xx

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5 Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·
Boiler Guy came - part needs replacing and he has to order it, so a few more days of topping it up. Did some stuff around the flat but 'resting' at the moment.
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08 Mar 2019 ·

Boiler man just wanted an excuse to see you again, let's face it.

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08 Mar 2019 ·

Thanks for the hugs, lovely Pandas

Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

Oh John - the tears are coming now :)

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5 Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·
The Guy emailed me this morning saying he'd enjoyed it and would invite me to his flat once it's sorted. (Yesterday we discussed the difficulties of minimalism/maximalism; we both live in small flats)
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Jeff M
08 Mar 2019 ·

Yeah, I don't know why it's so difficult either. But very good sign that he emailed, and sounds like your response was good. Let him decide. You'll figure out what he wants from his responses, eventually.

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08 Mar 2019 ·

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08 Mar 2019 ·

I can't imagine dealing with all the silliness of dating. Thankful to have BF. Hope you get to know this guy better. Sounds promising!

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08 Mar 2019 ·

You are a young at heart person. :)

Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

Not quite sure how to read this as, based on my 2 hours' knowledge of him (!), I think he'd have said (nicely) if he didn't want to meet up again

Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

So, after a couple of hours, emailed him back and said I'm still off next week so if he'd like to get together in the meantime to let me know. Hope that is a good compromise between clarifying that I really would like to see him and putting the ball

Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

back in his court. God, why is this all still so difficult when we are both in our 50s??!

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5 Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·
Not heard anything back yet from The Guy - have to keep reminding myself this isn't a 'thing ' and that he has a really busy life. Also emailed other guy as I've enjoyed our conversations, keep
Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

options open etc Boiler man should be coming at lunchtime and having dinner with a friend tonight

Lydia R
08 Mar 2019 ·

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that The Guy will contact you today. I understand your disappointment though. Always hard to let go of these thoughts. Try to enjoy your day!

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Jeff M
08 Mar 2019 ·

Isn't there some social convention that if you email/contact too early it's a faux paus or something? I don't know, I'm terrible at such things. But perhaps that's all it is, so don't fret!

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08 Mar 2019 ·

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Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

I think there is too, Jeff - I've just decided to ignore it!

Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

Thanks, dear Lydia - I'm so crap at real life!

Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

Thanks for the hug, Ian - good to see things are going better

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08 Mar 2019 ·

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John T
08 Mar 2019 ·

The Guy and the Other Guy and the Boiler man. You've got all the boys!

Albertine M
08 Mar 2019 ·

Bahahaha! You always make me laugh out loud - you should be on the stage!

Ian D
08 Mar 2019 ·

Thanks, trying to keep it like this. Hope one or the other works out for you.

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08 Mar 2019 ·

Sounds like you are having lots of luck :)

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08 Mar 2019 ·

All things going your way. You deserve to have your choice of men. Hope things work out!

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6 Albertine M
07 Mar 2019 ·
Had a really nice lunch with The Guy - both good food and talk. He said he enjoyed it, and that his work trip for next week won't now be til next month. I had to leave to get back here for an appt but
Albertine M
07 Mar 2019 ·

am back home and broadband now up and running, so emailed him to say thanks and had a good time. We'll see, but glad it wasn't painful, even if nothing happens

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07 Mar 2019 ·

That's great! Glad you had a nice time.

Penelope P
07 Mar 2019 ·

Pleased for you 😊

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Manda P
07 Mar 2019 ·

Sounds wonderful. Hope these good times continue. xx

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07 Mar 2019 ·

Yay! Sounds great :)

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5 Albertine M
07 Mar 2019 ·
Having lunch with The Guy today. Feeling okay at the moment but nerves will come...Wish me luck!
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Jeff M
07 Mar 2019 ·

Just be yourself! I know he'll like you as much as we do! Let's just hope you like him!

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John T
07 Mar 2019 ·

Good luck. Late lunch if you're still going, so if you didn't puke up the food all over his face, just remember it could have gone worse.

Albertine M
07 Mar 2019 ·

Thanks for all the hugs and thoughts xx

Albertine M
07 Mar 2019 ·

Dear Jeffbear - thanks xx

Albertine M
07 Mar 2019 ·

John T - that made me laugh out loud. I didn't puke, so - woo hoo!

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07 Mar 2019 ·

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6 Albertine M
06 Mar 2019 ·
...and an email from The Guy arrives. Looks like we're meeting on Thursday - just time and place to fix. Excited and very nervous already....
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06 Mar 2019 ·

I can't wait to hear about how it goes!

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5 Albertine M
05 Mar 2019 ·
Haircut (good), dentist (you're going to need a new crown he said gleefully), new vacuum cleaner, drawing of raven. Emailing with another guy who seems quite cool. Not sure what, if anything, is
Albertine M
05 Mar 2019 ·

happening with The Guy, but just need to get on with things.

Penelope P
05 Mar 2019 ·

Ugh, I've been for crown prep today 😞

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Albertine M
06 Mar 2019 ·

Yeah, back on Monday for mine! I seem to remember it being kind of unpleasant

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