Big hugs x sorry to hear your having a hard time with work too! I hope things improve they should see they are lucky to have you! 😔
BIG HUGS MY DEAR FRIEND XXX
website - gotta get back on that horse :)
Hope it goes well.
Ah damn. Hopefully the next one will be more of a match!
If it's not there then it can't be forced. The right one will come along and you will know it. Still keep the faith and never give up. If I've learnt anything in life then it's that dreams can come true if you keep the faith.
Just enjoy it. Your OG doesn't have to become 'my G' after one meeting.
Hope you have a good visit and have a connection!
in upstate New York, so we should be okay. :) At this point I think we both just want to have a nice meal and wine, and hopefully enjoy spending some time together. Both trying not to look too far ahead
*Thanks John T and Manda, this is his new official nickname :)
Sounds like good plans. Hope it goes well! Where in NY did you grow up? I don't think I knew that about you...
Thanks for the hugs, Panda pals xx
Jeff - I grew up in a little place between Albany and Utica, in the Mohawk Valley. Dairy farms and apple orchards, in my day...I think you live much further west, toward Buffalo? The Bills are my team :)
Was Super Intendant Chalmers from there? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4lnZr022M8
😂 Albertine, I love it! If only he knew! 😂
my request for clarification - said he's found out he's likely to be going on a long term (2 - 3 year) posting abroad shortlist so no longer considering LTR but would still like me to visit before he goes. Disappointed but given some of the stuff we
talked about I think it's probably right move for him. Seeing The Other Guy (who will now need a different name :) ) on Saturday, he's coming up to Edinburgh, awfully nice of him to do the lion's share of the travel
Not 'shortlist' - shortly!! Damn predictive text!
You seem to be very pragmatic about all this, I wish I had half of your level headedness!
Pen, I probably sound more so than I am! But of course so little had really happened with The Guy, and there was no guarantee anything would have, just my little daydreams. And of course I have yet to meet The Other Guy, which could be awful. It's ea
to be level headed when it's still new and you have options. But I started this whole thing partly to clear my mind of a guy that I kept going back to/thinking about, and that does seem to be working. And from that debacle, and my LTR that I broke
off at Christmas, I think I'm a lot clearer now what type of person and relationship I want. Whether I get it is another matter! But the last few years have been rough, and I'll be 52 this year - bit of a slow learner, to say the least!
Oh I hear you. I'm 49 and finally “got” the man I've liked for almost 20 years with three failed relationships in the meantime. It's still far from straightforward but he's worth the hard work. I wish you the best xx
I always felt like The Other Guy was better for you than The Guy. He just seemed to get you! :)
Thank you for the hugs, dear Panda pals:)
Pen - whenever I read your posts I know we've been through a lot of the same things. I'm so hoping everything works out for you!
Jeff - I do think you're right. Not to say that means everything will work out, but - for now - we do seem to get each other. :)
Call him the OG... 😁 (That's young people's talk - I'm not exactly sure what it means)
😂😂😂 John- it's 'original gangster' I had to ask too. Happy you have this other guy, Cindy. I'll be rooting for ya!
Ah, spring! We've probably got more snow in the forecast & definitely still low temps. I can't wait for spring!
Alicia, I live in Scotland, near Edinburgh. We'd already had some springlike weather, and crocuses out etc and today we seem to be back to spring!
Where do you live? If you don't mind sharing that. I'm in the south of Germany, it's already spring here.
There was around 4 cm first thing but it's melted here now.
he asked did I want to take things further - ie meet up in Edinburgh. So we've agreed we will, either next Saturday or the following. I did tell him that I've been talking to The Guy and met him this week but not sure about status of that.
So we'll see....
Woo-wee! You are one popular lady! Looking forward to seeing how this plays out. I'm cheering for ya! xx
thinking - even as I acknowledge to myself that this is a very stupid thing to spend my brain power on as I can't know! Stupid brain, stupid heart...
I know what you mean. Today I'm going to try and switch off from it. But he's already texted this morning. It's a tough one. Try to keep occupied with other interests, that's my plan today. Good luck x
Thanks for the hugs, Panda pals - means a lot
Pen - thanks for your wise words xx
Boiler man just wanted an excuse to see you again, let's face it.
Thanks for the hugs, lovely Pandas
Oh John - the tears are coming now :)
Yeah, I don't know why it's so difficult either. But very good sign that he emailed, and sounds like your response was good. Let him decide. You'll figure out what he wants from his responses, eventually.
I can't imagine dealing with all the silliness of dating. Thankful to have BF. Hope you get to know this guy better. Sounds promising!
You are a young at heart person. :)
Not quite sure how to read this as, based on my 2 hours' knowledge of him (!), I think he'd have said (nicely) if he didn't want to meet up again
So, after a couple of hours, emailed him back and said I'm still off next week so if he'd like to get together in the meantime to let me know. Hope that is a good compromise between clarifying that I really would like to see him and putting the ball
back in his court. God, why is this all still so difficult when we are both in our 50s??!
options open etc Boiler man should be coming at lunchtime and having dinner with a friend tonight
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that The Guy will contact you today. I understand your disappointment though. Always hard to let go of these thoughts. Try to enjoy your day!
Isn't there some social convention that if you email/contact too early it's a faux paus or something? I don't know, I'm terrible at such things. But perhaps that's all it is, so don't fret!
I think there is too, Jeff - I've just decided to ignore it!
Thanks, dear Lydia - I'm so crap at real life!
Thanks for the hug, Ian - good to see things are going better
The Guy and the Other Guy and the Boiler man. You've got all the boys!
Bahahaha! You always make me laugh out loud - you should be on the stage!
Thanks, trying to keep it like this. Hope one or the other works out for you.
Sounds like you are having lots of luck :)
All things going your way. You deserve to have your choice of men. Hope things work out!
am back home and broadband now up and running, so emailed him to say thanks and had a good time. We'll see, but glad it wasn't painful, even if nothing happens
That's great! Glad you had a nice time.
Pleased for you 😊
Sounds wonderful. Hope these good times continue. xx
Yay! Sounds great :)
Just be yourself! I know he'll like you as much as we do! Let's just hope you like him!
Good luck. Late lunch if you're still going, so if you didn't puke up the food all over his face, just remember it could have gone worse.
Thanks for all the hugs and thoughts xx
Dear Jeffbear - thanks xx
John T - that made me laugh out loud. I didn't puke, so - woo hoo!
Hope you had a good time.
I can't wait to hear about how it goes!
happening with The Guy, but just need to get on with things.
Ugh, I've been for crown prep today 😞
Yeah, back on Monday for mine! I seem to remember it being kind of unpleasant