Take slow breaths counting slowly to five on the in breath and six or seven on the out. Just focuse on the breath
Thank you - I am doing that now
My best escape is occupying my mind and my time, hope you're okay
Thanks everybody! Focusing on breathing helped and now I also do 20 minutes of mindfulness meditation per day I think that might help as well for me at the moment
Sorry to hear this Alma. I hope you managed to get some rest and feel even a little bit better now x
Thank you Claire that is so sweet of you :) I feel much better at the moment! :)
I'm glad to hear that <3
I'm deeply grateful for this video... it's helped me through some tough times (and it turns out he has lots of other amazing work!): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Ss1HuA1hIk
Let me know if you find some inspiration in it :)
It's so helpful to write this here. Gives me strength. Thank you Pandas.
Haa, pretty much in the same situation and also made why-it-wouldnt-work/doomed-ahead list to break or transform those neural connections in my brain...it's all a choice...
Yes Melody exactly! Haha great let's do it together. Take back control.
Big big hugs hun x
Oh Alma, that sounds really difficult - when a kind gesture reminds you of everything you feel has been lacking in your life. I've felt this way before, around friends and boyfriends houses. It's not nice. But you can do the best with what you have x
It's all anyone can do. And also remember, looks can be deceiving, families dysfunctional, hidden behind a polished exterior there are cracks and secrets!
Thank you Binky and Claire thank you so much all Pandas. It means a lot to me. I still feel vulnerable and cry a lot and I really appreciate all this.
It's true that there are cracks everywhere Binky. I just wish I had a bf or a gf or parents who can show love or a sister who is my friend - somehow it all got a bit too much for me. I would also like to have children but I am so pessimistic now
Sorry to hear about your Xmas. It can be a really hard time. When I was a young adult I used to start dreading Xmas in November :) we've had some great ones since then ... but this year's been a tough year for our family. I opted out ...
I spent this Xmas on my own. I cried all afternoon. Binky's right about the cracks. I feel positive now about a new year. I'm sure will too. Your plan to be nice to yourself sounds like just what you need. You deserve it.
Sandra Thanks so much for your message I just read it now! I am sorry you had an unhappy Christmas. ..
It's great that you feel positive about the new year.
Need to tell myself that the fact that I am alone at Christmas does not mean that I am less lovable than others
Yes that is true Alma, Hugs
It's good that you know that, and I really hope you managed to make yourself believe it too! Xx